How to Build Self Esteem in your Children

We all want our children to have great self esteem, right?  As we know, self esteem is the basis of well-being and affects how we feel about ourself which affects how we act.  Think about a time when you were feeling really good about yourself.  You probably found it much easier to get along with others and felt good about them too!  Here are 3 “self esteem” builders:

  1. Be a Positive Mirror – A lot of children’s self-image comes from how he thinks others feel about him as well as how he feels about himself.  Here are a couple of thoughts: 

 *   Do you give your child(ren) the idea that they are fun to be with?

*    That their opinions and/or desires matter to you?

When you give your child positive input, they learn to think well of themselves.

      2.  Set your child up to succeed – this can be done in many ways.  Here are a few:

*    help your child develop talents (that is a part of discipline)  – this could be reading, art, gymnastics, dance, music – lots of things

*    beware of comparisons – we all know how easy it is to fall into this.  Be sure your child believes you value her because of who she is, not how she performs.

     3.   Give your child responsibilities – it really helps children to have jobs.

One of the main ways children develop self-confidence is through helping doing household duties.  It makes them feel more valuable, and also helps channel their energy into good behavior.